Whether you intend to have an awe-inspiring ballroom affair for your wedding day, or you’re more of a hippy, casual beach party kind of gal, you will need a perfect wedding dress. When I say you will “need” a perfect wedding dress, I actually mean you will “NEED” it. We’ve all seen those movies where a bride turns into a bridezilla if she can’t find her ideal dress, and we’ve all concluded – we don’t wanna be her.
I’m not really a fan of that “dream dress” expression for several reasons. First of all, who in their right mind has the same dream all of the time? Trends change, tastes change, people change – dreams change. Chances that you will be “dreaming” of the same dress all the time are slim to none. Secondly, if you are like me (libra to the core) then you are probably very indecisive and you have ten or so, possible “dream” dresses. In the end…we all have nightmares too, right? So, let’s leave that “dream dress” concept to the endless array of Hollywood rom coms and take this issue with a grain of salt.
Now that we’ve determined that we are not actually looking for a mythical “dream” object, but a dress that will fit us perfectly, we can start our quest. The first thing that happens to most of us once we start hunting for a wedding dress, is the well-known wicked reality check. I say “most of us” because some of us are Rockefellers, thus some of us don’t have that problem. Your wedding dress budget is of crucial importance in this matter and it will pretty much outline how your search for the perfect wedding dress will go. Whether your budget is $400 or $4.000 knowing the limits will help you to stay grounded and not to freak out over some stunning $20.000 work of art. Try on solely those dresses that you can afford and you will find your perfect wedding dress without any unnecessary stress. Now that we’ve mentioned the budget, be aware that you also need to count in some non-obvious costs. You will probably have to pay extra for tailoring, as well as numerous accessories that go with the dress, including the veil, shoes and jewelry. Once the wedding is over, you will also want to keep your dress in the mint condition, so you will have to pay extra for cleaning and preserving as well. Needless to say, you will need as much cash as you can get.
Most blogs will tell you to choose your dress silhouette before you go on a shopping spree, but to me that just seems completely pointless. Whether you are cute chubby pocket Venus, or a fitness guru, you will change your opinion based on what your mirror and your bffs say. Sure, you can exclude ballgown if you’re having a poolside wedding, or A-line if you are pregnant, but your opinions and plans are bound to change as the wedding day approaches. Keep in mind, you might end up gaining a few pounds because of some nervous eating, or you might lose a few because of some mandatory stress and commotion. Don’t buy your dress eight months ahead of schedule, and make peace with the fact that it will probably have to be fixed at some point. On the same note, if you are thinking that you can suck it up for a day and wear a smaller size – don’t. It is important that you feel comfortable and have fun. If your dress is too tight or too provocative, you might end up feeling sorry for yourself while everyone else dances the night away. Choose a beautiful dress that is in sync with your personality, and that will move with your body-shape properly.
There are also some tricks that ladies don’t talk about, but that could ultimately make your life much easier. For example, you should try to do your shopping on weekdays. All bridal saloons are packed during the weekends, and you don’t really want to see your perfect dress on someone else. Furthermore, who wants to be in the same room with bunch of gasping-for-air moms and screaming bffs? Also, pick your shopping team members wisely. Look for the small signs that could make your shopping day unnecessarily difficult. For example, your bff and your sister-in-law might not be each other’s biggest fans, and chances are they won’t agree on what looks best on you either. Furthermore, you don’t want any kind of tension in the bridal saloon, your own uncertainties will be enough. It is best to narrow the crew down to three people whose opinions you value the most. Also, whatever you do – don’t bend. You might be a people-pleaser, but if you decide to go with someone else’s opinion when it comes to your wedding dress, you will end up making a big mistake. It is your big day and you should go with what you love. Don’t go unprepared to the bridal saloon. Check your undergarments and put on some high heels. You don’t want to put on a strapless wedding dress with your purple bra straps sticking out, and you most certainly don’t want to try on that champagne-colored work of art wearing your dingy old red converse high tops. I mean, you can do all of those things, but you won’t get the right picture of what your potential dress will really look like on your wedding day.
In the end, don’t expect that enlightening moment when you look at yourself in the mirror any you and everyone in the store start crying your eyes out because you have finally found your perfect wedding dress. Set yourself for stress, nagging and confusion, because that is the reality. Keep in mind that all of that will be worth it once the wedding day comes and you walk down the aisle looking like a goddess you are.